Wednesday, June 6, 2012
Yes or No?
It has come to my attention that a teacher at my kids' school refuses to allow the kids to say "No" in her classroom.
How do I know this? Tonight's dinner is an excellent example.
Me: Would you like some more mashed potatoes?
Kid1: Probably not.
Me: What? Yes or no. More potatoes?
Kid1: Not really.
Me: The only two possible answers here are "Yes, please," or "No, thank you." You know that. More potatoes?
Kid1: I ... well ... I don't...ummmm. No. No more potatoes.
Me: "... please..."
Kid1: No more potatoes, please.
Me: Why was that so hard?
Other Kid: Kid1's teacher doesn't allow "no" in the classroom. I think it's to cut down the negativity in the class.
Me: "......(mentally) whuck? ..." Um. I'm sorry about saying this, but no. NO. You need to have the courage to stand up for your answer, be it yes or no. And if a teacher or anyone else can not cope with hearing a "no" answer, they shouldn't ask yes/no questions. That's the risk you must accept when you ask a person a yes/no question. The person might actually say "no."
Other Kid: May I have some more potatoes?