tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-472198842835957487.post3087935797845006433..comments2023-04-03T06:04:39.176-04:00Comments on Some of This May Be True: Asking Questions vs. Asking For A Favor: How To Tell What's WhatKatehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04138703136542887931noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-472198842835957487.post-12579066704456804802014-04-28T16:59:19.116-04:002014-04-28T16:59:19.116-04:00I worked with a wonderful woman who always couched...I worked with a wonderful woman who always couched every instruction as a request: "Do me a favor and leave this bandage on for four hours?" I'm sure she meant it as a way to soften her words, because of course it wasn't a favor, it was just her speech pattern. <br /><br />I agree that when the other person doesn't have a choice, it's thoughtful to offer options, if possible: "Are you getting off the tracks now, or after the train runs over your feet?" Teachers definitely know this rule.<br /><br />As for asking "Why not?" when the answer is no--that's for wheedling children and busybodies. The correct answer is, "Sorry, I have diarrhea."Jenny Hart Borenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06587246633354905840noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-472198842835957487.post-84974103647622699192014-04-28T14:18:57.231-04:002014-04-28T14:18:57.231-04:00I'm practically incapable of both, which is pr...I'm practically incapable of both, which is probably why I am no longer publishing a crochet magazine. Even asking people for something when I am going to pay them is... it's just not me. I'm good at leading a crew already in place, but finding those people - beyond my skill set.<br /><br />On the receiving end, being in business for myself has taught me the necessity of NO-without-explanation. It's nobody's business why I might have to refuse/decline.Eris Devoteehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11418139943781016255noreply@blogger.com